19 May 2025

🎬 How to Help Your Child Nail Their Self-Tape (Without Turning Into a Showbiz Dragon 🐉)

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Let’s get one thing straight — your child is the star. You? You’re the brilliant, behind-the-scenes powerhouse making it all happen. Think Phil Wormwood from Matilda the Musical — but loving, organised, and not flogging dodgy cars.

Whether you’re taping for a drama school, an agent, or a professional casting, this is your ultimate guide to helping your young actor shine — without losing your mind (or your natural light).

💼 Parent Role = PA, Not Director 😉

You’re not here to direct a West End show in your living room. You’re here to support, steady the ship, and bring the snacks.

Your mission:

  • Plan tape days early – Give yourselves time. That last-minute panic? Avoidable.
  • Print the script – Go old school. Highlight objectives, reactions, and shifts in emotion. Ask them: What does your character want? What just happened?
  • Dress the part, not in costume – No sparkly wigs or pirate eye patches, please. Choose clothes that subtly hint at the character: a hoodie for a teen, a shirt for something more formal. We always have 3 or 4 tops that are always ironed and ready to go – different fabrics and looks. These are the “self tape” clothes. Makes life much easier on the day.

🎥 Self-Tape Success – Make Them Unforgettable

Everyone can act. The ones who get remembered? They do something just a bit different.

Here’s how to make that tape pop:

  • Start with movement – Don’t just hit record and shout “go.” Encourage your child to enter the moment. Let them walk into frame, sit down, react, fiddle with something. A natural beginning helps them land in the scene, not just say lines.
  • Let the ending breathe – Resist the urge to cut the moment they finish the last line. Let the final beat settle. A quiet exhale or subtle shift can say more than words ever could.
  • Live in the world – Make sure your child knows their given circumstances—Who are they? Where are they? What just happened before this moment? These answers anchor their performance in truth.
  • Play with rhythm – You don’t have to stick rigidly to the punctuation. Say the lines in the right order, yes—but experiment with pauses, breath, and pace. A small twist in delivery can help your child stand out in a sea of identical tapes.
  • Two takes, two vibes – Record two versions—one soft and subtle, one bold and playful. Mix it up with two different looks, or swap the eye line (left, right, across the lens, to reader). These small changes give casting directors options without extra effort.
  • Strong eye lines – To keep your child’s eyes consistent and focused off-camera, use a toy, sticker, or familiar object. This helps them “see” the person they’re talking to and stay connected.
  • Acting should be called reacting – If your child’s scene has a lot of dialogue, try blacking out the other character’s lines during practice. That way, when taping, they listen and respond naturally, rather than zoning out or rushing to their next line.
  • Use a Line Learner app – Kids love tech, so use it to your advantage. Once they understand their character’s objectives and obstacles, pop their lines into an app. It helps them rehearse independently and builds confidence and professional habits.
  • Most importantly, keep it fun. Your child’s self-tape should be a playground, not a pressure cooker. These small shifts in approach can make a big difference in both their confidence and your sanity.

🎙️ Your DIY Self-Tape Set-Up – Don’t Panic!

You don’t need a £1,000 studio. Just a few clever touches can make a huge difference.

My go-to equipment (with Amazon affiliate links):

💡 As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases — but I only ever recommend what I personally use and love.

Let the camera roll a little longer — the gold often happens in the “mistakes.” Don’t stop them if they do something you “perceive” as a mistake! These takes can often be the best – and even if they aren;t your Childs confidence will be knocked! let them have fun in a calm and relaxed environment.

🗣️ Be a Brilliant Reader

🎭 You’re not Meryl Streep – and that’s absolutely fine!
But don’t underestimate how much your performance as the reader can impact the scene.

📖 Don’t memorise the lines – just familiarise yourself with them so your delivery feels natural and effortless.

🎙️ Keep your tone soft and authentic. You’re not the star – but your warmth and realism will help the child shine.

👀 Make eye contact and offer genuine emotion – especially through your eyes. You’re their scene partner, and your reactions give them something real to respond to.

📸 Position yourself thoughtfully. Stand back from the mic – rather than far off to the sides. This means your lovely voice won’t be distracting from your Childs tape and their eyeliner will still be within the frame.

🔄 React to them – with both words and actions. Children learn by watching. Show them you’re present and responding, and they’ll mirror that energy.

🌟 Remember, you’re there to support the scene, not steal it. Let the child take centre stage – your job is to help them feel confident and connected.

🎭 Want a Bit of Extra Help? Work With Me Online

I offer friendly, practical, no-nonsense coaching sessions that really work. Whether your child is brand new or already auditioning for big roles, I can help shape performances that feel truthful, confident, and castable.

My students have appeared in:
🛡️ House of the Dragon
🚔 Blue Lights
👻 Red Rose
🏥 Casualty, Hollyoaks, The Bay, Ackley Bridge and loads more.

And of course, my son Leo Ashton has worked since the age of 6 — so I know what it’s like from the parent side too.

💻 Online Coaching Options:

  • 🎬 Self Tape Surgery – £35 (30 mins)
    Send your tape, I’ll rework it live with your child to sharpen performance.
  • 👩‍👦 Parent & Child Session – £65 (1 hour)
    Great for beginners. Learn how to tape as a team.
  • 🎭 Tape Prep / Taster – £30 (30 mins)
    Quick prep for an audition or a trial run if you’re new to coaching.
  • 📆 4-Week Coaching Block – £100 (£25/week)
    Stay consistent and build skills week by week.
  • 🎥 TV/Film Course – £184 (8 weeks)
    Structured coaching with a focus on camera technique, spontaneity and performance truth.
  • 🚨 Emergency Session – £15 (30 mins)
    Block students only – perfect for last-minute auditions. I can even film it with you live over Zoom.

⭐ Why Work With Me?

✔️ 40+ years in the industry
✔️ Actor, agent, and parent of a working child actor
✔️ Honest, nurturing, professional feedback
✔️ Proven results – students get seen, shortlisted, and cast

Let’s give your child the confidence, tools, and truthful performance skills they need — in a way that’s positive, practical, and empowering.

Got a question or ready to book? Drop me a message. I’d love to help. Don’t forget we also have weekly face to face workshops in Preston, Chorley, Wigan and Warrington 💛

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